men should arry when they are young, and won should arry when they are young. this has been an unchangg prciple sce ancient tis. although it is now advocated to change ctos and engagenew weddgs, pared to the 1960s and 1970s, it has bee ore xurio and the siple ctos of people no longer exist. i a fro zhuzhou, hunan. lettalk about the weddg ctoszhuzhou.
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matchaker es to propose arriage
when n and won reach the age of arriage, their parents first fd a atchaker. when the atchaker disvers that there is soone of appropriate agethe faily, they first unicate with their parents and then schedule a date to arrange a bld date location, ually a arket pce. on the day of the arket, both the an and the woan go to the designated location, take a look at each other, say a few words, and show their cheerful personality on the spot. generally, they will retu ho and talk to the atchaker. after agreeg, the an will choose a date for engagent (we call it dgshi there). there is also a type that is favored by oneself or by parents, such as s. if they are reted, parents will entrt an acquatance to act as a atchaker. in the 1960s and 1970s, any s got arriedrural areas, and the third representative of siblgs gettg arried was ore. this is called "new retives gettg arried with old retives", which is even ore joyful, but this kd of close retives gettg arried is still not good.
the engagent requires four kds of gifts, that is, a few pieces of cloth. decent failies will e dacron and dacron fabrics, nylon socks, and those with poor enoic nditions will e khaki cloth and tton socks. in this way, even if the engagent is suessful, the an can go to the woan's ho and send so gifts to the woan's ho for the new year holiday. generally, the four kds of gifts are the sa, naly, the begng of sur festival, the dragon boat festival, the mid-autun festival and the sprg festival. meat, eggs, noodles and a piece of fabric, after a year or o, when both parties have no objections, the woan tells the atchaker that they can cut the shoe saple (that is, the an tells the woan the size of the shoes wo by his faily). the an gives the woan so oney for cuttg the saple, which was only a few tens of yuan at that ti. the woan needs to ake a pair of shoes for each ber of the an's faily and atch the with hand-ebroidered soles.
preparation before and after arriage
a necessary dowry for won
before arriage, the an gives the woan so oney to buy a dowry. dependg on the faily's enoic nditions, he can give the woan three to five thoand yuan at once, and regardless of how uch oney she receives fro the an, these thgs t be allocated. one rge wardrobe or bation cabet, one table, four chairs, one b table, one food cabet, one washbas rack, o rge wooden cases, one sall wooden case or leather case (siir to the rger travel case at present), o hot water bottles, cups and toothbrhes, au pots for boilg water, pressure oker and other daily necessities, four quilts and a pair of pillows. those with good faily nditions will be equipped with a n's bicycle, a seg ache, a bck and white tv set, an electric fan, etc. in fact, no atter how uch oney the an gives the woan, the woan's parents basically don't e uch of the oney, and they retu it to their daughter to ake ntaer oney.
what the an t prepare